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Family Law Case Filings on the Rise in 2015

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Karen E. Rushing, Clerk of Court and County Comptroller, Sarasota County, Florida

Family Court Filings increased by 4 percent in 2015 in Sarasota County.

My local Attorney Bar Newspaper for Sarasota County, The Docket, had an article from our Clerk of Court, Karen E. Rushing.  She provided a three-year review of cases filed in her jurisdiction.  According to her statistics, many areas of case filings were down over the past three-year period.  However, the area of Family Law had a four percent increase in filings; from 3,954 in 2014 to 4,110 in 2015.  (The Docket, February 2016, Karen E. Rushing)

I am conducting a survey of Collaborative Law Cases in our area presently, and so far I am aware of at least 40 cases handled in a collaborative manner last year.  While I am very happy to see that this number of families have been helped by this team approach to family law, I am extremely sad to see that this is still less than one percent of the total number of filings.  This means that 99% of the families going through difficult transitions of divorce, post-divorce and paternity issues are not being assisted with a collaborative team approach to resolving their case.

I would love to see these numbers reversed.  I know that a few people need to resort to the courts to resolve differences of opinion about their divorce or paternity cases.  These people may have families that suffer from domestic violence or such severe disagreements that the only way to resolve the case is by having the intervention of a Judge to decide the case.  Yet I also know that the vast majority of cases would be better served by the guidance of collaboratively trained attorneys, financial and mental health professionals to find solutions that best suit their family.

If you would like to learn more about how your family can avoid the costs, time delays, anxiety and conflict of litigation please contact my office to learn more about the Collaborative Law Process and how it can help you and your family.  Visit my Website for more information: www.odayresolutions.com

The “Ladder” of Divorce

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I often explain to potential clients that the divorce process is somewhat like a ladder.  The rungs on this ladder relate to the formality involved in the process.

The lowest rung would be the least formal and would correlate to the couple that is able to sit down at the kitchen table and work out the details of their divorce between themselves.  In Florida they could then use the forms published by the Supreme Court (found here) and file the case with the court for final approval.

The next rung would correlate to a couple that may need more assistance, a couple that may want help in drafting the agreement or who cannot calmly work out the details without some professional assistance.  In this case the couple can employ a mediator and, with the help of a skilled facilitator, work out the details of their divorce.  This couple may decide to each retain legal representation to review the agreement after it is drafted or even to attend the mediation, but they determine early on that they will not litigate and do not need court intervention to reach an agreement.

The next rung would be occupied by a couple that struggles with a lot of issues such as developing a parenting plan, division of assets and ongoing support. They may need more formal structure and advice from separately retained counsel.  The problem is that many couples skip an available rung and end up consulting litigation lawyers who advise them to begin the litigation process.  This is a problem because the couple have now developed an adversarial posture by filing accusatory pleadings.  The attorneys, because of their training and historic roles, often serve to increase the conflict through adversarial style of advocacy.  Even as the attorneys work with the clients to resolve the case, they are constantly strategizing how the case will be tried in court if resolution fails.  The parties have missed the “next rung” on the conflict resolution ladder — collaborative representation.

In the case of collaborative procedure, the parties would each retain legal counsel but the attorneys would be committed to working with the other professionals as a team to resolve the issues and minimize conflict.  Being a trained collaborative attorney I can tell you there is a substantial difference when the parties have one financial expert whom they both trust, one mental health facilitator whom they both work with and two attorneys treating each other with respect and working towards a settlement without any motivation to prepare for possible trial.  It truly is a “paradigm shift” for the attorneys.  The collaborative process should be considered as the next rung on the dispute resolution ladder prior to any advice to consider litigation to resolve the case.  Not every case may be appropriate for collaborative resolution, but too often this option is not even presented to the parties and they miss the opportunity to maintain control over their lives and the outcome of their divorce.

Collaborative Practice is also very different from the mediations that take place after many months of litigation and trial preparation.  Often the parties in these cases have attended temporary hearings where they have become agitated and hostile.  They have exchanged adversarial pleadings and answered extensive discovery requests.  By the time they arrive in mediation each side has developed a hostile position for the negotiations.  Often these cases start mediation with each side sitting in separate rooms with their attorneys and the mediator shuffling back and forth doing the “give and take” dance with the parties.  There is a reason that many mediators often start these mediations with the advice that “if you both leave here unhappy then we have a good agreement”  The parties have often invested so much in the conflict that their compromises are painful and hard fought.  This too is different than the collaborative process where looking for creative solutions starts from day one.

If the collaborative process is unsuccessful, the parties can still climb the ladder to the last rung and resort to litigation.  The couple will then turn their lives over the the straight-jacket structure of the laws passed in the state capitol and the formality of a court room.  Evidence will be restricted by rules and the judge will make the ultimate decisions about how to resolve the conflict.

COLLABORATIVE LAW TRAINING COMING TO SARASOTA & BRADENTON, FLORIDA

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Next Generation Divorce of Sarasota & Manatee proudly presents “Interdisciplinary Family Law Collaborative Training”

If you believe, like many of your fellow professionals, that there must be a way to help people through the divorce process without all of the anxiety, stress and emotional turmoil of litigation, then you should join the forward thinking group of professionals practicing in Collaborative Law.

We are happy to announce that we are bringing Collaborative Law Training to Sarasota and Bradenton, Florida through a training being offered by Next Generation Divorce, our local Collaborative Law Group.

This training is for Attorneys, Psychiatrists, Psychologists, Social workers and LMHC Professionals,

Financial Planners & Accountants Interested in helping clients who want to have a divorce without litigation

At this unique training you will learn:

¨ The basics of the collaborative process

¨ The Skills to begin a collaborative case

¨ The Protocols developed for Family Law Cases

¨ The ethical considerations when working in the collaborative model

¨ The skills to work as a Collaborative Team

¨ The most powerful ways to deal with challenging situations

¨ The best ways to assist clients through collaborative process

Where: Holiday Inn, Lakewood Ranch

6231 Lake Osprey Drive,

Sarasota, FL 34240

Discounted Rooms available for out of town participants ($99 / night)

When:     Friday May 16 & Saturday May 17, 2014

8:30 a.m. to 5:00 p.m.

Registration begins 8:00 a.m.

Cost:        $495 if registered before April 25, 2014 / $545 if registered after April 25, 2014

Includes continental breakfast, lunch and afternoon snacks each day

Trainers: Collaborative Law Training Associates, Inc. of Atlanta, GA.

Seats are limited so please respond early!  We know this will be a sold out event.

Pending approval of Florida Legal, Mediation, Mental Health and Financial Professional Continuing Education units.  This training meets the requirements for membership in local Collaborative Law Group.

For a registration form or further information, please contact me directly: Sharon O’Day, soday@odayresolutions.com / (941) 228-8571

 

 

How to save money on your divorce.

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$“Civility costs nothing and buys everything” Lady Mary Wortley Montagu

“Be prepared and be honest” John Wooden

One of the most common questions I am asked during an initial consultation with a new client is “how much is this divorce going to cost me?”  I completely understand the concern that most clients have about the financial costs involved in a divorce including the costs of the attorney, other professionals, and the court fees.  There are other costs that you should consider as well, such as the time away from work or family, as well as the emotional and psychological costs to you and your family.  So, the proper question to ask is how can you minimize all of these costs associated with divorce?  Here are my top five suggestions:

♦     Prepare!  The number one thing that anyone can do before beginning the divorce process is research and prepare.  You want to learn all that you can about the process and your options.  You want to learn about options such as mediation and collaborative divorce.  You also will want to also know as much as can about your family’s finances.  A good list of documents that you should have available can be found here.  These are the Mandatory Disclosure documents in Florida and are a comprehensive list of documents that will give you a good picture of your family’s income and expenses.  In addition, preparing a family budget will give you a good idea of your family’s income and support needs after the divorce. You will also want to prepare a list of your family’s assets and their net worth as well as a list of the outstanding debts and liabilities owed by your family.  A good way to consider all of these issues is to prepare a Financial Affidavit form which asks you to consider your income, expenses, assets and liabilities.  (A Florida Financial Affidavit can be found here.)

♦     Fix your priorities.  Everything does not have to be a battle.  If you have children, your first priority should be to shield the children from the litigation and emotional strain of the divorce.  Your next priority should be to move through this process with as little emotional and financial suffering as possible.  It is often easy to let your emotions take control over the process and make decisions out of anger or frustration.  This can often be a costly mistake.  With the goals of shielding the children and obtaining a smooth divorce you can then prioritize the issues of your case easier.  Remember, the less you disagree about, the less the divorce will cost you.  If you find setting your emotions aside as you negotiate difficult, you may want to consider a hiring a counselor or coach to help you through the divorce process.

♦     Negotiate!  The costs involved in a litigated divorce can be staggering.  It is not unusual for a litigated divorce to cost tens of thousands of dollars for each side.  And this does not consider the destructive emotional costs involved in litigation.  The most efficient way to avoid the extreme costs of litigation is to negotiate early and often.  As you negotiate keep in mind your priorities so that you don’t become embroiled in a fight over certain issues simply because your spouse “pushed your buttons”.  It is also important to keep in mind that the research you conducted early will allow you to have a stronger position in the negotiations as you will be well informed about the reality of your family’s financial situation.

♦     Consider alternative forms of resolving the case.  If you and your spouse are able to negotiate effectively alone then this can result in an extremely low cost divorce with the attorneys only involved in drafting and reviewing the agreement and filing it with the court.  If you need more help with the negotiations consider hiring a qualified mediator or collaborative attorney to assist you with the negotiations.   By avoiding litigation, you are eliminating the high costs of depositions, court hearings, expert witness fees, and other fees associated with litigation.

♦     Be conservative with your professional’s time.  If you hire a professional mediator or attorney to assist you with your divorce, you must first ensure that you enter into contract with the professional that outlines exactly how you will be charged.  In almost all cases the contract will detail hourly billing for the professional’s services.  You now have control over how much the professional charges by how much you require of their office.  If your attorney requests you provide documentation required to provide to the other side, then gather the information requested, organize it and provide it to the attorney in an efficient manner.  The same goes for forms that your attorney requests you fill out.  Also, if you have questions, it is often better to keep a list and once a week send an e-mail with the list of questions and a request that you set a time to speak to your attorney to discuss these.  The attorney may be able to answer many by return e-mail or may find that setting an appointment to speak is more efficient.  In either case, your attorney will have an opportunity to properly prepare for the questions and answer them in the most efficient manner.   Also, be aware that many attorneys have paralegals that can assist you with basic work at a much lower hourly rate.

There is no “standard fees” for a divorce in most cases.  And there may be aspects of the costs your divorce over which you do not have control.  In some cases one spouse may be unwilling to negotiate in good faith and want to force the case to a trial.  However, the more responsibility you can take over the aspects of your divorce, the less the overall cost will be.

Things a Judge Cannot Do…

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sonia sotomayorJudges can’t rely on what’s in their heart. They don’t determine the law. Congress makes the law. The job of a judge is to apply the law.  Justice Sonia Sotomayor

 

 

 

Throughout the years that I have been practicing in Family Law, I have had a few clients who refused to negotiate and would instead demand to have “their day in court”.  Their theory was always that, once the judge heard their story, the judge would be so moved that my client would get whatever it was they wanted.  I often had to inform my clients that, no matter how moving their story was, the judge just could not give them what they wanted.  In most cases this was because the law did not provide the relief they expected or thought was fair.  Here are a few of the things that the law in Florida does not provide for:

Visitation or “shared parenting” of pets.  Under Florida law, Fluffy is just a piece of property to be distributed to one party or the other.  I love my dog and I love my cat and I have even loved my daughter’s snake, rats and other various creatures that have filled our house with love.  If I found myself in a situation of a divorce, I would want to make sure that my daughter and I could continue to have regular interaction with our pets (although I admit, some more than others).  However, under the equitable distribution laws, the pet is given a value and that value is placed in the column of the party receiving the beloved pet.  The judge simply cannot order that the other party have visitation or any other “contact” with the pet after it is “distributed”.

College tuition or child support past high school.  Except in the most extreme situations of continued dependency, Florida law provides that child support ends when the child turns 18 years of age unless then child remains enrolled in high school with an expectation of graduation prior to their 19th birthday.  Even if the child remains enrolled in high school but will not graduate until after their 19th birthday, child support does not normally continue.  This is different in some other states, but Florida does not provide for college support or support past 18 years of age in most cases.

Continued joint ownership of a family business.  Florida law states that once you get divorced the idea is to separate such things as ownership of property and businesses.  Therefore, if the parties are not in agreement, the court will not order that they remain co-owners of the family business.  This means that one party is more than likely going to have to buy out the other party.

This is just a sample.  There are many more examples of things a judge cannot order because the law does not provide the option.  There may be exceptions to any one of these rules (after all, every good rule has an exception).  However, in most cases, Judges are not going to create new law or make a special exception for your family.  The one way to ensure that you achieve these and other creative solutions that meet your family’s needs is to come to an agreement through negotiations.  The best way to increase the chances of a negotiated settlement is to start from a non-adversarial process such as mediation or collaborative law.  With the skilled assistance of a good mediator or collaborative team, your family can come up with very creative solutions that meet all of your family’s needs and desires.  This is why alternative ways to resolve these disputes is often referred to as the way to find “win-win” solutions.

Top Twelve Questions to Ask your Divorce Lawyer

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“Judge a man by his questions rather than by his answers”  Voltaire

I have had many perspective clients come to me for an initial consultations.  During these sessions, which often last for more than an hour, the perspective client often wants to tell me a bit about their life and the reason for their divorce and then they want me to explain the law to them and how it applies to their case.  At the end of the consultation I ask the perspective client if they have any question for me.  The most common questions are “how much will the divorce costs” and “how long will this take”?  It is unfortunate that there are rarely any other questions.  Getting divorced is an extremely serious and usually stressful endeavor.  The relationship you have with your attorney and their approach and expertise in handling your case can make all of the difference in how the case proceeds and the ultimate outcome of your divorce.  Remember this is a “job interview” and you are the one hiring the attorney.  Here are the top twelve questions to ask any attorney you interview for your divorce.

  1. Are you trained in collaborative law?  If you are interested in having a divorce that does not involve litigation and that puts your family’s interest and involvement first, consider a collaborative divorce.  However, to have this option available to you and your family, you must first find an attorney that is trained in collaborative practice.  Many attorneys are now listing collaborative divorce on their website because they know this is good marketing.  It is up to you to make sure they are actually trained and qualified in this area of practice.  Even if your case is not going to proceed in a collaborative model, hiring an attorney who is collaboratively trained will help ensure that the attorney understands the principles of problem solving and putting the needs of the family first.  If you are not familiar with collaborative law or collaborative divorce, please check out my blog posts on this subject. 
  2. Are you Board Certified (or have special certification in your state)?  Each state has their own credentials to identify attorneys who have attained a certain level of expertise and specialization in specific areas of the law.  Board Certification is the Florida Bar’s “legal expert” status and only 285 family law attorneys have attained these credentials.  In order to become Board Certified in Marital & Family Law in Florida, the attorney must have been practicing a minimum of five years with at least 50 percent of their cases involving family law disputes, during the five years prior to the application for certification they must have represented at least 25 clients in contested marital cases with at least seven having been submitted to the judge for decision, they must have completed at least 75 hours of continuing legal education in the area of family law, they must receive a passing grade on a very rigorous examination, and they must satisfy a peer review assessment for ethics and professionalism.  While there are many extremely well qualified attorneys that have chosen not to apply for certification, a simple way to screen for qualified attorneys initially is to look for Board Certification when considering what attorney to hire.
  3. Are you active in the family law sections of the local and statewide bar associations?  One of the best way to determine if a potential attorney is up to date on what is occurring in the area of family law is to consider their involvement with other attorneys in their area of practice.  These meetings are a good way to keep up to date on the latest changes in the law and most recent court decisions.  Perhaps more important, these meetings allow the attorneys to network and develop professional relationships.  I have had potential clients ask if I am “friends” with the opposing counsel in their case, and seem concerned if I tell them that I have a friendly professional relationship with this person.  In fact, the best way to ensure that your case will be handled efficiently and professionally is if the two attorneys can work cooperatively towards a resolution.  You should require that any attorney you select is active in their local bar association and collegial with their fellow members of the bar. 
  4. What other professional groups are you a member of?  There are many local and national groups that family law attorneys can become active in which will further enhance their knowledge, skills, and commitment in family law.  These include the Family Law Section of the American Bar Association, the International Academy of Collaborative Professionals, the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers, and the Associations of Family and Conciliatory Courts.  In addition, you can investigate local organizations that allow for collaboration and networking among family law professionals in the legal, financial and mental health fields.  Involvement in these types of organizations by an attorney will demonstrate a varied knowledge in the interrelated disciplines often used in family law cases. 
  5. What are the most recent continuing education courses you have taken in marital or family law?  Attorneys are required to maintain a certain level of continuing education but you will want to investigate if the attorney has completed these course in the area of family law and if they are up to date on the most recent changes in the law.  One of the most rapidly changing area of law has consistently been Family Law and if your attorney has not kept up with the changes they will not be able to properly represent you.
  6. Have there been any changes in the law recently that will affect my case?  It is always good to ask specific questions on your case and with this questions you will be able to evaluate how familiar an attorney is with proposed or recent changes to the law that may affect your case. 
  7. What would you say is the best strategy for my case?  With this question you will be able to evaluate if the attorney considers a litigation strategy, a negotiation strategy or a duel track (litigation and negotiation tracks running simultaneously) to be the best approach to your case.  Look for clues that will indicate that the attorney is setting the case in a very adversarial position such as advice to cancel insurance, close bank accounts or credit cards, make significant changes to existing parenting plans, or highly adversarial positions.  In some jurisdictions these actions are not allowed, but in others they are permitted but will clearly set the case up to be very adversarial.  This is not to say that in certain situations such advice may be necessary, but you must evaluate if your case is appropriate for such positions. 
  8. Do you encourage me to speak with my spouse during the time that the case is pending?  Some attorneys tell you not to speak with your spouse and to allow all communications about the divorce to go through their office.  Others will encourage you to continue to negotiate with your spouse and try to resolve as much as you can without attorney involvement.  Based upon the answer to this question you will be able to judge the position of the attorney towards the clients having control over the case.  While it is true that in some cases premature negotiations may be harmful to your case and in others there may be legitimate concerns about domestic violence that require limited contact between the parties, you should be cautious about choosing an attorney that insists on a black and white “no contact” rule.
  9. What is your hourly rate?  What is your retainer? And how do you bill for my case?  These questions should be clearly discussed with the attorney and should be explicitly detailed in the retainer agreement that both you and the attorney sign.  You should clearly understand how the initial retainer will be applied in your case and what are the expectations for replenishing the retainer.  The last thing you want during this stressful time is to be surprised with a demand for a large retainer replenishment just days before you are scheduled to attend a full day of mediation or trial.  Have this conversation in the beginning and keep the lines of communication regarding fees and retainers ongoing throughout the relationship with your attorney.
  10. Who will be working on my case?  Will the case be handled predominately by a paralegal or associate?  The answer to this questions will be intricately tied to cost as well.  If the attorney will handle everything personally then you will be most likely be paying for higher level services.  If an associate or paralegal is to complete much of the work, make sure you have an opportunity to meet these professionals and have confidence that you will be able to work with them as well as the attorney.
  11. During what hours can I reach you directly?  How long will I have to wait for a return call from you or your office?  Again, this question is specific to how the law office works.  Understand the office’s policy for return calls, e-mails and emergencies.  Make sure your expectations are consistent with the policy of the office. 
  12. How can we keep the cost of the divorce down?  Divorce can often be a very expensive.  However, there are ways for you to keep the cost of the divorce down.  My next post will cover this in detail but for now make sure that you follow the directions of the attorney efficiently and discuss with the attorney the strategy of your case to minimize the costs. 

You will notice that the questions I do not list are “how much will this divorce cost?”, and “how long will this divorce take?”  The total cost of a divorce is impossible to predict and any attorney that tells you exactly how much it will cost if he or she is doing hourly billing is not being honest.  Some attorneys will offer a “flat fee” divorce but in my experience these are usually for uncontested preparation of a settlement agreements and if the case results in on-going negotiations over the agreement or becomes contested then the costs will rise.  If you decide to go with a flat fee divorce make sure there will not be added costs for additional hours spent negotiating.  Similarly, “how long will this take” is not something an attorney has complete control over.  If you have an uncontested divorce with a simple settlement agreement signed by both parties the attorney may be able to predict the time until a final judgment is issued.  However, your attorney cannot control the level of cooperation of the opposing side nor the delays that may exist in the court’s calendar.  This is one reason why the collaborative approach is often best, as it allows the parties to work cooperatively towards an appropriate resolution without the delays caused by the court system or uncooperative litigants.